Interview with Lady Lilly

Tell us a little bit about yourself?

I'm a petite, svelte,intelligent, strong-willed, passionate and cosmopolitan woman. I am based in Washington DC. I'm of Asian and European descent. I have absolutely captivating brown eyes -- or so say my full-time servants. (All you have to do is open up to my gaze and you're absolutey mine to control.) I've got black hair that varies in length and style depending on the seasons and fashions. I stand 5'3 in my bare feet, but w/ my heels, attitude and personality , I'm way over the roof. ( =.

How long Have you been in the lifestyle?

I've been dominant since before I was born...I kicked my mom around good -- and my dad got it even worse when he put his head on my mom's growing belly. Seriously, I've been a dominant for a good number of years. My professional career started in DC, where I've been active for around a decade.

Please tell us about Your facility?

I have a good sized playspace that is fully equipped w/ the things that I need for scenarios. It is located in the heart of the city here in DC. I must say I do miss my former Lair that had a variety of theme rooms and chambers. I now have a dungeon room, rather than 3 floors. But this allows for very focused activity and my tools are always near at hand.

How Were You introduced to The Scene?

The simple answer is through a relative. Of course, its a much more interesting story in its details. I am sure that people reading would want some specifics. So here ...

My actual introduction to 'the scene' came via a relative who saw my essential nature and clued me in to the fact that I could treat a slew of men as my ponies (I loved ponies growing up!), and that I could dress exotically and as I wished, and men would grovel at my feet and beg for my attentions, regardless of whether I was kind and gentle, or ill-spirited, slightly malignant and brutally harsh in my treatment of them. Being bred and raised well and growing up having household servants ( BTW, I treated them very well just in case anyone wonders) certainly made it easier to understand why servitude is important to me -- and made it easy for me to recognize and relate to the art and sincerity of submissive servants and those in positions of household authority. My grandmother was an excellent role model for me.

I needed no introduction to the mindset or the proposition that woman is powerful and man is weak and meant to serve her, and that man in fact craves this situation. Sometimes a man's craving or desire to submit and serve Female-dom is quite overt or conscious; sometimes it is overwrought with guilt; sometimes, it appears only in dreams or nightmares; and sometimes a man is only able to acknowledge the deep essence buried within himself when his silly little willy speaks up at oddly submissive or fetish-triggered moments.

Now, there are also some women who crave to act like men -- who have assumed power or never had it and need the same sort of relationship as men....It's so often about power and authority and humiliation and control. It's a lovely, fascinating tangled web. I can deal with these ladies just as I deal with men - with creativity and without sentimentality or pity.

What are your specialties?
Altocalciphilia (hi heel fetish)Foot worship, especially with trampling involved or using my strong, exotic, flexible toes
Bondage (all forms of it)
Edge play
Behavior modification, specifically through discipline from mild to corporal punishment
Bastinado
Role play and
Mind games.
I like all these activities, perhaps even in this order.

Please tell me the most intense scene You ever did?
There are a far too many intense scenes that I have been involved with to identify just one, but let me tell you about two that stand out in my memory. One scene involved bondage and deprivation for over 8 hours. I used metal cuffs, metal arm and leg restraints, hoods, a straightjacke, and a leather body harness to ensure complete immobility. Then I employed nipple clamps, weights, parachute (for the C and B ), rope, a heavy duty thick gauged rubber body bag (great for deprivation), and a couple of tubes for the subject or should I say "plaything" to breathe through. In this way I had complete control and could play breathing games - and my lucky toy "plaything" could focus only on me and my control -- there was nothing else in his environment, only ME, giver of life and Mistress of all sensation. Oh, yes, don't let me forget what I had hid in the dungeon: a large block of ice where all the keys to restraints, cuffs and locks, etc. were frozen -- deeply imbedded in the ice. I also had a bell, which was hanging atop for "plaything" to ring if he could get out of his bounds. I had good fun watching his efforts and rewarding him with air when he reached the bell - and taking away precious breath if he failed to do so on my command. I would also permit him my pre-breathed air (Mistress's warm tender exhalements) if he was especially good. I judged him on his form in these efforts and in the tone of the bell ring. A lovely time - a phenomenal day!

Another very intense session involved bullwhips, needles, canes, fire play and electricity (via remote control). I acted on my subject, a dear dear sissy, in spurts, which slowly intensified my sadistic mood. Dear sissy was assigned the task of cleaning my whole 3 floor dungeon from top to bottom. I could hear her falling on her knees -- even from two floors away -- when I would decide to trigger the remote control attached to her "jewels" between her nasty manlegs. (Even the nicest or whoriest hose cannot sometimes improve some sissies legs!) That was one afternoon of fun that lasted well into the night. I'd check her work room by room, and s/he always missed something and had to take a punishment and redo the room. Sometimes s/he did a room 4 times before s/he got it just right. By the time dear sissy finished the cleaning (it was immaculate!), I had marked the activity quite well with whip and cane stripes, a fully needle-pricked ass and burnt nipples and chest hair. In fact the hair on her balls was singed quite nicely - which is exactly the way I like my sissy balls: a well cooked surface, but still raw and fully of juice in the center. I just have to make sure they can still sway with weights or with a kick.

What will you not engage in?
I won't engage in just any form of play, and, of course, absolutely refuse to engage in sex or sexual activities. NO SEX. No Sexual activities. And like any safe and sane scenester, I don't engage in any form of play that is illegal or which involves animals, children, etc etc etc. I don't engage in fetishes I don't enjoy, such as infantilism, scat, diaper or baby fetishes.There are some activities that I might engage with long-time and devoted subjects, but not at all with others -- and even then my subjects must be quite good or quite bad, depending on my mood. Either way, these are the lucky and devoted few; and there is always the threat of complete banishment even for them.

How about humiliation?
Certainly a favorite. And there are so many varieties and forms that this can take! It is a pleasurable endeavor for me -- I love a beet red or beaten red subject !

Do You enjoy watersports?
Yes, I do. This form of humiliation, teasing and rewards to a slave is such a power play for me. Only the lucky few are permitted this treat. It takes the utmost devotion over a long, extended period of time to reach this stage with me, but it is a carrot (or a threatened punishment) that I will act upon. It depends on my mood also. I've had the lucky few bathe in my holy waters, perform toilet duties for days at a time, drink my wine at public bars, serve me in public toilets, etc. This, again, is not to be expected by many submissives; only a few attain this status. These are those I've cultivated through the years and induced utter and absolute dedication to and adoration of Me. I've got a nice funnel, I regularly drink liquids, especially white and green teas, and I've got an active bladder. Most merely get to hear the sound of me relieving myself in more vanilla fashion. Its a lovely sound, and I've trained a couple of folks to cum at the mere sound! Again, that takes many sessions of behavioral modification and a truly skinnerian and pavlovian approach to my work. It takes devotion from the lucky servant that I choose to undergo the training and permit to worship in this way. New servants/subjects should not expect this from me.

What kind of slaves do You like the most and least?
I like slaves that are truly sincere, generous w/ their time and tributes, dedicated, focused, discreet, honest and funny. There are the ones who anticipate my wants and needs. They put me first, as they should. Those are the best. What I truly hate is the ones who try to top from the bottom; I throw them out on their asses with the understanding that it is complete banishment. I like the slaves who truly know their place, the ones who know the difference between fantasy and reality, and the ones who know to respect my private, personal and professional space. I also appreciate the slaves who give me a reaction during sessions. On the professional side of being a domme, there is the business side of it that makes me appreciate the novices and mold them to my needs.I dislike boring slaves.I dislike whining, needy men that cling. They often have no judgement as to how to approach and when and how often to approach the Mistress. I call them the clinging vines. They disgust me and are treated accordingly -- as utter low lifes that are always on the verge of banishment. I've used banishment rarely, but I have used it.

What are your favorite gifts?
Flowers.
Scented candles ( Diptyque to be specific )
Great wines and great scotch'
The best and well made shoes.
ART, in all mediums.
Things organic.

I love life. Everything that comes with it are possibly my favorites. Oh my, I feel this is another one of those trick questions for a Dominatrix. I like things material and immaterial, but hi-end designer gear and threads are great.

Do you play in your personal life?

Of course.
Please tell everyone how You can be contacted for a session?
Everyone, male or female, must go to my website www.LadyLilly.com and fill out an application. Or they can try to email Me at LadyLilly@LadyLilly.com w/a sincere letter of application. I can also be reached through DommeLilly@yahoo.com. Again w/ a sincere letter of submission. Without that, no service is possible. My website also gives one a choice to view it in HTML or in FLASH version.

Tell us about your vanilla interests?

No. I'd rather not. That is too much information for you and your readers. I believe in discretion on all sides of the client relationship, even if "don't ask, don't tell" is not the most effective policy all of the time. The favorite gift question should give the readers a bird's eye view on my vanilla life. That's all that they are permitted.

Do You have any personal slaves?

Yes, of course, but I don't go into details about them or my personal life. They know who they are and they all get along great.

What is the greatest thrill You get from Domination?

The thrill of control. The thrill of seeing a grown man or woman wilt and crumble - its all in their eyes (and in mine!) -- and marked on their ass quite often. I love to read a subject's psyche, find his or her need, and work it to open up, to reveal itself. I love to get someone to embrace these elements of their personality and strengthen their self-awareness of who they are. Too many are only partially self-aware. Its like they live in a cave with shadows, and even if I can't expect them to see beyond the shadows, they should at least be able to see ALL the shadows on the walls of their caves. That's why I've got candles and lots of hot wax, too! <laughing >

DO you work work other professionals?

Yes, I do. Both locally and nationwide, sometimes as a visiting Mistress. Locally there are a few Professional Dommes in DC and the metro area that I enjoy doing sessions with. Occasionally, I've also got personal slaves that will from time to time assist me in appropriate and discreet circumstances.

What are your goals?

Realistic Goals:

1. Make a difference and continue to educate my clients and subs to accept themselves and their kinks and fetishes. We ALL have them.

2. Enable enlightment of the darker more interesting parts of every single subject that experiences and comes to contact me.

3. Always to enjoy LIFE; which isn't really a goal, but I do it anyway.

Unrealistic Goals and Wishful Thinking:

World domination over the powerful to exploit their needs and weaknesses